If you ask me, the best line of defense against teenage pregnancies and birth control advocacy is to have girls spend an entire day with a "my kids are better than your kids, cuz I'm in the P.T.A, and only serve healthy snacks, in my van as I drive into the city from my cookie cutter home in the burbs" mother.
There is no better deterrent than to experience the wrath of the "SUPERMOM". Why does everything have to be a competition?????
"My house is bigger than your house."
"My car is nicer than your car"
"My kids get better grades than your kids."
"French Immersion is "not good enough" for my kids."
" GASP...you let them eat TIM BITS!!!!"
" OH MY GOD...YOU LET HER RESOLVE HER OWN BULLYING ISSUES??!!!"
"EWWWW...you use store brand diapers??? It's Pampers or nothing for my little Timmy"
GIVE ME A FU$%&* BREAK!!!!
The day I gave birth, something happened that damn nearly eclipsed the act of becoming a mother...suddenly I was an IDIOT and every other mother in the world (and even some people who don't even HAVE kids) knew more about raising kids than I did, and felt at liberty to express this sentiment!
I had mostly succeeded in staying out of the "mother race" everyone around me seemed compelled to run as they strived to be supermom extraordinaire by producing the bestest, smartest, prettiest, kid in their "clique" until Andraya started school. Then suddenly my slacker mom ways were defiantly met with the accusing eyes and pointing fingers of - DUN DUN DUN...the stay at home P.T.A. mom!
As if my slacker (aka I'm too tired to make cookies from scratch tonight, let's Pillsbury it up instead) ways weren't bad enough, I decided to put my daughter in French Immersion! Suddenly I was ousted from the slacker group too because I was now, pretentious!!! I didn't fit in with the supermoms, and I was little too ambitious for the slacker moms!!!! I am like a lone wolf surrounded by two packs of hyenas!!!
I further aggravated the problem by having Andraya join Sparks under the illusion that "everyone would share and be a friend". Unfortunately, even as the girls said their pledges a clear line was drawn among the parent folks. There was THEM, the "I've been in guides since I was four and now my little girl is in guides and I'm a leader in another troupe"moms, and there was US, the "I'm just here because my daughter thinks it's fun, but if she doesn't we'll do something else" moms."
I joined two "exclusive" mom clubs - London Mom's and Wondermums thinking I might find a kindred spirit (maybe I'd luck out and find two) and instead I ended up feeling like I was back in highschool - only this time we weren't competing for who could tease their bangs the highest we were competing for who loved their kids more!!!
To quote that loud Susan lady who used to do the infomercials...
STOP THE INSANITY!!!!!!!!!!!
Raise your kids, do your thing and don't worry about MY KIDS, or MY THING cuz frankly...I have not lost a single night of sleep wondering why you're kids are not in french immersion with mine. I don't care...I'm a slacker mom...I have other shit on my mind than making sure my kids can one up yours....and to be perfectly honest, when my children get older I will aim to fill my life with as many "non mom" things as possible so that my self worth, and my social development will not rest on their little shoulders. It's too much preassure for a kid to always feel like he as to be good so mommy looks good in front of her "friends".
And for the record...French Immersion french is better in my book than no french at all, and oh yea...yes I'm "JUST" a restaurant manager, and that probably isn't making the most of my college education but do go on about how your university degree has helped launch your successful Mary Kay Cosmetics career so that I won't feel like your snub is NOT justified.
Merci de l'écoute !
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